How to Write a Novel as a New Mum

I didn’t know it at the time, but when I wrote my first novel I had so much on my side – copious amounts of free time, regular good night sleeps, a clear head, a reliable income, and none of the overwhelming stress and pressure that goes hand in hand with keeping a tiny new human-being alive. When I became pregnant with my son I knew these days were numbered and that my second novel needed to be put down on paper as soon as possible. It was with that in mind that I decided to leave book number 1 in draft form and return to it at a later date – a decision that has benefitted me more than I could have anticipated, but I’ll save that for another post! I’m now pregnant with my second child and my son is one-year old. Joyfully, the first draft of my second novel is now complete, and following an overhaul of my first novel it has reached querying stage – just in the nick of time, too!

  1. Give yourself a bit of time first – If you’ve just become a parent, the last thing you’re probably thinking about doing is writing a novel – and that’s ok! The newborn phase is brief, so be kind to yourself. It is more than enough to focus on your recovery, on bonding with your child, catching up on sleep wherever possible, and establishing yourselves in your new roles as parents and as a family unit. If you do want to work on your novel, I wouldn’t suggest so much as putting pen to paper just yet – if you really must do something, maybe work on developing a strong idea for your novel’s outline, because that will make your task ahead so much easier.
  • If you can and want to, try to get baby into a routine – A routine isn’t for everyone, but for me it’s been key to living a relatively anxiety-free existence as a new mum. I like to have a vague idea of what to expect and when in my day, and while so many factors can sabotage this when you have a baby’s needs to consider in addition to your own, overall I’ve been able to maintain a fairly predictable routine for my son from about 2 months of age. This meant paying attention to his ever-changing awake periods and sleepy signals and using at least one opportunity that he was sleeping per day to write. I understand that not all babies are as routine-amenable as others though (and they definitely don’t all like sleep as much as we do!).

My son wasn’t a great sleeper until he was 15 months old, but I still had time to make good progress on my novel because fortunately he was a pretty consistent napper. I could fit in 30-60 minutes of writing most days, and I was equally satisfied whether I managed to write only a couple of sentences one day and a full chapter the next so long as I’d written something, and I didn’t feel bad if there were days where all I wanted to do was down tools and sleep while my son slept instead. 

There are never any guarantees of how long your baby will nap for, so writing was usually the first thing I did once my son had fallen asleep in case he awoke sooner than expected. I could always wash the dishes that had been piling up or grab a snack later on – when baby is awake it can be extremely hard to get anything done. Later I found I could get away with extending my son’s naptime 20 minutes or so by letting him stay in his cot amusing himself while I finished off whatever it was I wanted to get done.

  • Write a sequel – If this isn’t your first novel, I’ve found the easiest place to start writing when you’re a new parent is to come up with a sequel to one of your earlier works. You’ll have already created sympathetic characters and a believable world, so a large part of the hard work has already been done by you. For me, it was far easier to imagine what might happen next to the characters of my first novel than it was to come up with an entirely new concept. If I’d started from scratch, I honestly don’t think I could have produced a second novel in my first year of motherhood unless I already had a very strong outline in mind (which I definitely did not) – especially once the creativity-killing combination of writer’s block, cumulative sleep deprivation, and baby-brain had set in.
  • Develop an idea or piece of work you’ve already started – If you haven’t already written a novel, similar to the suggestion above I suspect you’ll give yourself the best chance of success if you choose to either develop a concept for a novel that is already strong in your mind, or revisit something you’ve written previously and potentially discarded or forgotten about to trigger your creative imagination. Like many writers, over the years I’ve accumulated heaps of story ideas and written numerous first chapters/scenes on my laptop that have yet to be developed into full-length stories, but now I’m about to birth baby number 2, it’s one of those pre-established works I will be returning to for ideas and as a potential starting point for novel no. 3.
  • Create writing opportunities by getting help or utilising a local babysitting/creche service – Given I live 10,500 miles away from my nearest family members, babysitting opportunities have not been as forthcoming for me as they might be to other new mums. I utilised the creche service at my local gym twice/week to allow myself to focus on my writing. By the time my son had made the transition to only one nap this doubled my writing opportunities for the day because I could first take myself to a café whilst he was at creche and have almost an entire 1.5 hrs to make progress on my novel, then when we got home I could use his naptime to do a bit more work if I wanted to or simply get the housework done or catch up on Outlander – whatever suited me best on the day!
  • If you don’t feel like writing today, proofread or edit instead – I never wasted a writing opportunity, because even if I didn’t actually get any new words down on the page I would ensure either proofread or edit instead. Sometimes I would squeeze in a little extra time to do this while my son was awake and occupied nearby with toys/snacks, but I would stop for the day if he got fed up because then it would be too hard to concentrate anyway. Any time spent on developing your novel, even if it’s only on improving the existing content rather than coming up with something new, is good progress.
  • Use evenings – When I finished my second novel my son was around 15 months old, and I would use the first hour following his bedtime to do a bit of proofreading/editing on either that novel or my first one. I rarely feel creative after a long day of caring for and chasing after a highly active toddler, so I found editing a far more manageable task for those times that I wasn’t functioning on all cylinders. By taking turns with my husband to put our son to sleep I was also able to gain an extra 30 minutes or so every other night – which could be used either as additional editing time or a chance to finish up a bit sooner so we could enjoy our evening together before I crashed.
  • Enlist your partner’s support – Once a fortnight or so my husband would look after our little one for me and I would head off to a café where I could be distraction free and focus solely on my writing (and a really good cup of coffee!). I really appreciate the time my husband gives me to pursue the things that are important to me (I just need to remember to return the favour!).
  • Make use of work lulls – I used to work shifts after hours, and nightshifts could be particularly quiet at times which is when I would occasionally take advantage of the opportunity to either write, proofread or edit my novel. If you can do the same without compromising the quality of your work or your employment contract then by all means, do!
  1. Know your story – I’ve found that the clearer you are from the outset about the story it is you want to write, the easier it is to put pen to paper and make good progress even when you have the additional responsibility and pressure of caring for a little one. A thorough knowledge of the plot for my second novel not only increased my motivation to write and hasten progress, but made the entire process so much easier.
  1. Let your little one motivate you – I want my children to grow up with the drive to pursue their dreams, and I hope one of the easiest ways to teach them that is to role model it for them!

I’m not convinced these suggestions will work when there are two + children – but I guess I’ll find out in a few months’ time!

Are you a mum who writes? How do you balance motherhood with your writing?

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